It’s okay to not be okay. I don’t know how many times I tell myself this. Rough patch, a bad day, a setback. Sometimes, it seems like one thing goes wrong after another. And another, and another. This can become and feel extremely overwhelming; I know I have been there.
Sometimes an unexpected challenge or an obstacle might come your way, and you find yourself stressing out, worrying and not knowing what to do. And, some days, you have nothing. Zero motivation and no creativity. All of a sudden you feel like you have no purpose or hope. It’s crazy how one little thing can lead to another, and before we know it, we are consumed, which can result in our mental health becoming low, and we see more negative days than the positive.
You think you have to be strong all the time.
You think you’re not allowed to cry, to admit that you’re not okay.
It’s okay to not be okay.
This is something that I have struggled with in the past, and it can be very easy to not get consumed by your thoughts. I don’t know if these strange and sudden changes can be part of a process that we can’t explain. It can come from all aspects of our life. Whether it is a breakup, career change, or a family feud, these times can affect our emotions. However, I know that admitting that I’m not doing too well, even to myself, wasn’t easy.
Why do we always feel the need to be strong? Why do we feel guilty when taking a time-out? I was overwhelmed with this feeling of self-gilt but why am I punishing myself then; you question how can I sit here and cry and feel sorry for myself when I have some much to be grateful for?
But it’s time to realise that it’s okay to not be okay. Don’t resist feeling “bad” just because it seems like you’re the only one who feels lonely, or lost or unmotivated- you’re not. Don’t worry about what everyone else is doing, and remember that we all know what it’s like to “not be okay” even if most of us don’t talk about it. All those feelings are normal, we all go through this sometimes. Is it a fun place to be? No. But it doesn’t last forever.
If there’s one thing that I’ve learned during these times where I feel this way is that the more you resist feeling “bad”, the worse you’ll feel. Yes, you have to keep trying to get better, but don’t force it — allow yourself to heal and learn to be patient with yourself.
So here is a reminder, this mental health awareness week, it’s okay that not every day is not painted to perfection. It’s time to think of those bad days, like a passing cloud; you can’t see the sun, but you know it’s there. You know that eventually, it will come out. There is always a light at the end of the tunnel.